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Why Waiting in Line is Good for Your Soul

November 4th, 2007 by Simone

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In a time-poor world, waiting in line is a modern form of torture.

In fact, our inability to wait has spawned such modern creations as virtual queues, online reservations, drive-by deliveries and self-serve shopping.

Today many modern companies pride themselves on getting you in and out of the door before the deli staff have time to wrap your lunch meats.

And in some organisations, allowing their customers to feel as if they are always at the head of the queue is the definition of customer service.

Dr. Richard C. Larson or “Dr. Queue”, a Professor of Electrical Engineering and Director of the Center for Advanced Educational Services at MIT, is a leader in the operations research field of queuing. His advice to organizations wanting to minimise queuing time includes -

  • Use serpentine, rather than individual lines at banks, fast food restaurants, and other establishments
  • Entertain, enlighten, and engage those waiting on lines
  • Announce delays
  • Compensate customers who are not served within a guaranteed period of time
  • Let customers serve themselves

But all this talk about minimising the impact of queuing wakes me wonder if it is really about the inconvenience caused or the need to feel in control and powerful.

In an increasingly competitive world, where road rage is a common side-effect of being held up at an intersection, does it really demean us to have to give way to the guy on the right?

The Queue Blues

Research shows that queuing is most torturous at post offices, movie theaters, banks, police departments, sanitation departments, and emergency services, but in my experience it is waiting in a supermarket that often brings out the beast in people.

After happily sauntering the aisles for half an hour - spending longer comparing the calorie content of two frozen dinners than it will take to actually cook and eat them - people turn into dogs on short leashes when it is time to actually ring up their purchases.

Have you ever seen your local supermarket transformed into the starting gate at the Spring Races? Everyone eying off the person in the checkout next to them, desperate to be proven the most effective at choosing a fast lane?

Queuing, it seems, is often perceived as a quaint custom for those with time to waste.

Consider the “ten items or less” checkout, where a bulging shopping basket can earn you the death stare from every customer in the store.

Or the expectations of a shopper with only a tin of soup and a box of pop tarts when they appear behind you at the register. Obviously if you have time to fill a recyclable bag with a selection of real food, intended to be cooked in a real kitchen, you have time to wait for them to complete their purchases first…

Wait Watchers

Why do we hate to wait?

A perceived lack of social justice often underlies frustration with waiting.

The custom of “first come, first served” underpins the culture of queuing in many countries and never is a culture clash more clearly underlined than in the form of the tourist who ignores such an expectation.

The reality is that different nationalities view queuing and the concept of “cutting in line” very differently. In continental Europe for example, people are less inclined to join or form a queue, moving directly to their goal without paying attention to others who are already present.

In countries where a sense of “fair play” is instilled into children before they climb onto their first swing-set, queuing is a structured thing. The English, famous for their reserve, often view the structured queue as a way to avoid talking to strangers.

And in former Communist countries where waiting in long queues was a near-daily occurrence, the act of waiting in line is an institution. It is acceptable, for instance, for a person to leave the queue to use the bathroom and then return to their original place without having to ask permission. In other countries this might get your passport confiscated.

And yet the concept of queuing is a complex thing. In the United States - where many believe that money can lift them out of the mob - fines are imposed on those cutting in line to catch a ferry!

Mind Your Ps and Qs

Wikipedia has amassed much information about queuing and queue-jumpers in particular:

A negative response from the rear of the line is appropriately expected when someone has cut in line up ahead. It is usually viewed with disdain, due to the “wait your turn” aspect of a line. Indeed, a person cutting in line has a 54% chance that others in the line will object. With two people cutting in line, there is a 91.3% chance that someone will object. The proportion of people objecting from behind the cutter is 73.3%, with the person directly behind the point of intrusion objecting most frequently.

But has waiting in line really become such a science? A report on queue management in theme parks reveals the philosophy behind keeping customers in a queue:

If there were to be no queue at all, it would create the impression that the value of the attraction is to some extent diminished. In general terms, one may observe that attractions with short queues tend to attract less public. So, in principle we should not aim at the elimination of queues, but instead concentrate on giving people an option to join the queue, or to skip part of the queue and spend the wait somewhere else.

In other words, give people the impression of not wasting their time by getting them to wait in a virtual queue…

Stop and Smell the Roses

But when is waiting in line really a good thing?

A long queue - like the one I waited in last night while trying to get a taxi - can be a positive experience.

Here are a few suggestions as the benefits of being made to wait:

It keeps things in perspective - Is the meeting so important or the parking space so perfect, that you are prepared to throw a tantrum in public? Being made to wait reminds us that our priorities are perhaps not as urgent as they appear.

It lets you interact with your fellow man - Waiting in line also reminds us that we are social creatures, trapped together on this eternally shrinking planet. Assuming there is nothing to catch your eye on the magazine rack, try striking up a conversation with the shop assistant or your fellow shoppers. Instead of tapping your foot with the fury of an Irish dancer, use that energy on getting to know the people in your neighbourhood.

It leaves you alone with your thoughts - Perhaps a frightening prospect for some, but by meditating the wait away, you might just find the time for the introspective stroll that always alludes you. Use the time to think some positive thoughts or to plan your way through a difficult decision.

Roses 3D cover

It lets you rethink the impulse buy - The salvation of everyone caught up in the hysteria of an end-of-season sale, being made to wait gives you time to reconsider your purchases. Those few minutes waiting for a cash register to free up might be all the time you need to see through the euphoria of fifty percent off, to the diamond-encrusted toothbrush underneath.

You may just find that waiting in line is time well spent!


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16 Responses to “Why Waiting in Line is Good for Your Soul”

  1. John says:

    This is great. You really did a good job thanks.

  2. Simone says:

    Hi John,
    thanks for the visit and feedback.
    See you again soon I hope :)
    S.

  3. laketrees says:

    hi Simone…
    great post !!!!
    I learnt the fine art of patience when I lived in London for 2 long years….I waited months for trains….and queued endlessly for hours just to buy a stamp at the post office….I learnt to read a lot and being an artist…it was always a pleasure just to sit/stand and watch the passers by…

    have a great Melbourne Cup Day :D

    cheers Kim

  4. Travel Betty says:

    I am so totally guilty of the grocery store line game. Inevitably I lose. Especially when I second guess my self and switch to what I think will be a shorter queue. Thanks for reminding me that it’s no big whoop to wait!

  5. Simone says:

    Hi Laketrees,
    Thanks for the comment. I also lived in London for a couple of years - loved the tube, but hated the buses! Seemed to spend half my life waiting for one (and freezing my toes off) and the other half jammed up against an armpit watching the snails charge past us :)
    S.

  6. Simone says:

    Hi Travel Betty,
    Thanks for the visit! I played the grocery store game myself today! Ignored my fantastic, insightful advice and swapped lanes only to have the check-out operator change the paper, receipt roll! The guy next to me totally smirked…
    S.

  7. Corinne Edwards says:

    Thanks for coming to my blog so I could find yours.

    Love it!

    My favorite gripe at the grocery are people who are in the line that is plainly marked “Ten items or less” and they have $130. worth of groceries.

    Do you have such a line in Perth?

    Let’s keep in touch!

    Warmly,

    Corinne

  8. Simone says:

    Hi Corinne,

    Love what you do too. Had a great look around last night.

    Yes, we definitely have the “express lane” here and it is open to much abuse and subsequent argi-bargi! Recently I witnessed a smooth young guy telling the rest of the people in the line that he was still within the rules because he had two baskets of less than ten each - one for him and one for his friend waiting in the car :)

    Love the ingenuity!
    S.

  9. Kerstin says:

    Waiting in line for me is so difficult. Living in America where you feel like everything is “go, go, go!” it makes you feel like a slacker when you have to “wait” for something. It drives me insane that I feel this way too! Weird.

    Good article.

  10. Alex Garcia says:

    I agree with all your readers. Great article. You really have a gift to put things in perspective.

  11. cooper says:

    I’m fairly patient but don’t often hang around places where I have to wait in line. Maybe because I do not have patience for that.
    I waited a lot when in NY going to school for buses and the subway but at least there if you are impatient and willing you can start walking and usually get where you want to go.

    Lines in grocery stores or even department stores are funny. Sometimes it’s a quiet line, sometimes it’s a chatty line, or it’s the line where one person addresses the rest of the line firsthand manages the chit chat…sort of the line leader if you know what I mean. I don’t mind them on those days I’m able to slow down and take it all in.

  12. Simone says:

    Hi Kerstin,
    Great point. To be seen as a time-waster in our “time poor” world is just not on!
    S.

  13. Simone says:

    Hi Alex,
    Thanks for the kind comment. Got to admit I have a great time looking at ordinary things from a slightly different angle :)
    S.

  14. Simone says:

    Hi Cooper,
    I know exactly what you mean about a line leader. People’s personalities often come out when they are required to wait. I’m fairly placid by nature. I avoid queuing if I can, but don’t really mind it, while my more edgy sister hates it. She almost takes it as an insult - but that might be the caffeine jumping about in her :)
    S.

  15. Mad goat lady says:

    I am not so self absorbed as to think that my time is any more precious than the next person’s, but I must admit that it seems the older I get the less patience I have and it annoys the hell out of me as it is trait that I really dislike in others so it is something I will have to work on changing.

  16. Simone says:

    Thanks MGL. It seems the older I get the more the world is speeding up and time flying by, so I guess it makes sense that we aren’t as patient as we once were :)
    S.

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