Comments on: What Not to Say When You Meet Someone New http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/ Tools to Lift Your Spirits and Help Focus Your Future Wed, 14 Apr 2010 01:12:11 +0000 hourly 1 By: Mandy Martin http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-950 Mandy Martin Sat, 26 Jan 2008 06:39:01 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-950 That's FUNNY!!! Talk Bout lessons from Ess!! That’s FUNNY!!! Talk Bout lessons from Ess!!

]]> By: Birney Summers http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-930 Birney Summers Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:58:28 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-930 Funny but useful in other encounters..like strangers meeting in an elevator. Last time I rode a lift in a three story building I asked the stranger standing by the controls for the twelfth floor just to enjoy their reaction. It turned out to be a good ice breaker. Funny but useful in other encounters..like strangers meeting in an elevator.

Last time I rode a lift in a three story building I asked the stranger standing by the controls for the twelfth floor just to enjoy their reaction. It turned out to be a good ice breaker.

]]> By: Simone http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-928 Simone Mon, 21 Jan 2008 12:27:40 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-928 Hi Karen, I tend to agree, but I suppose the stress is at least cut short by the bell! :) S. Hi Karen,

I tend to agree, but I suppose the stress is at least cut short by the bell! :)

S.

]]> By: Karen (Karooch from Scraps of Mind) http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-927 Karen (Karooch from Scraps of Mind) Mon, 21 Jan 2008 11:58:41 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-927 In a world of stranger and stranger experiences, I thing the speed dating concept has to be one of the scariest. Typically I would think it is mainly used by people who are not totally relaxed in social interactions. And surely it has to be the most stressful way to meet new people. In a world of stranger and stranger experiences, I thing the speed dating concept has to be one of the scariest.

Typically I would think it is mainly used by people who are not totally relaxed in social interactions. And surely it has to be the most stressful way to meet new people.

]]> By: Simone http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-924 Simone Mon, 21 Jan 2008 00:28:40 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-924 Hi Robert, Thanks for stopping by. Satya is right in that listening is the best approach to getting to know someone new. I think circumstances do require you to be conscious of making a good start though - as long as your motive is to engage with the person, rather than flatter or impress them. The key is that an initial meeting should be more about the other person than yourself. We spend a lot of time getting our appearance, small talk etc prepared, but not nearly enough really preparing to connect with other people. Some quick guidelines: 1. Ask their opinion rather than giving yours - what do they think of the project, party etc? 2. Comment on something that you find interesting about them, rather than attractive - aim for comments about their achievements, interests or skills, rather than their looks! 3. Focus on connecting your comments into a conversation - it is a two-way process and shows that you are listening and engaging. 4. Look for things you have in common - background, friends and interests. This is an easy and natural way to build a familiarity. S. Hi Robert,
Thanks for stopping by.
Satya is right in that listening is the best approach to getting to know someone new.
I think circumstances do require you to be conscious of making a good start though – as long as your motive is to engage with the person, rather than flatter or impress them.
The key is that an initial meeting should be more about the other person than yourself. We spend a lot of time getting our appearance, small talk etc prepared, but not nearly enough really preparing to connect with other people.

Some quick guidelines:

1. Ask their opinion rather than giving yours – what do they think of the project, party etc?

2. Comment on something that you find interesting about them, rather than attractive – aim for comments about their achievements, interests or skills, rather than their looks!

3. Focus on connecting your comments into a conversation – it is a two-way process and shows that you are listening and engaging.

4. Look for things you have in common – background, friends and interests. This is an easy and natural way to build a familiarity.

S.

]]> By: satya http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-922 satya Sun, 20 Jan 2008 15:38:06 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-922 listen and stop trying to make a good impression listen and stop trying to make a good impression

]]> By: Robert @ reason4smile http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-921 Robert @ reason4smile Sun, 20 Jan 2008 14:44:07 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/what-not-to-say-when-you-meet-someone-new/#comment-921 Great tips Simone, many times I don't know what to say, do you have any tips to say to make a good impression? Thanks, Robert Great tips Simone,

many times I don’t know what to say, do you have any tips to say to make a good impression?

Thanks,
Robert

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