Comments on: The Secret To a Successful Cross-Cultural Relationship http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/ Tools to Lift Your Spirits and Help Focus Your Future Wed, 14 Apr 2010 01:12:11 +0000 hourly 1 By: A http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-2421 A Wed, 14 Apr 2010 01:12:11 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-2421 Dear Simone, I am in a cross-cultural, long-distance relationship. He and I have been together for 3 years and have plans for him to come from his home country in South America to the United States in the next 2 years or so. My greatest fear is that the relationship will ultimately fail due to homesickness on his part. In all fairness, I can't imagine being in his position and leaving my home country, family, and friends for a permanent move. Do you have any advice in terms of that? How did your husband deal with the move from Kosovo? Is it possible to fully adjust and grow comfortable with the new country as if it were your own? Any thoughts or comments would be greatly appreciated! Thanks, A PS- I completely agree with your stance on humor, and believe that my connection with my boyfriend, based on our senses of humor, is one of the things that I cherish most about our relationship. Such humor allows us to connect on a much deeper level. Thanks, again. Dear Simone,

I am in a cross-cultural, long-distance relationship. He and I have been together for 3 years and have plans for him to come from his home country in South America to the United States in the next 2 years or so. My greatest fear is that the relationship will ultimately fail due to homesickness on his part. In all fairness, I can’t imagine being in his position and leaving my home country, family, and friends for a permanent move. Do you have any advice in terms of that? How did your husband deal with the move from Kosovo? Is it possible to fully adjust and grow comfortable with the new country as if it were your own?

Any thoughts or comments would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks,

A

PS- I completely agree with your stance on humor, and believe that my connection with my boyfriend, based on our senses of humor, is one of the things that I cherish most about our relationship. Such humor allows us to connect on a much deeper level. Thanks, again.

]]> By: TheMadman http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-1923 TheMadman Thu, 04 Feb 2010 17:11:53 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-1923 I would definitely agree with the points made in this article. I understand what you are saying about "humor" - it is not just "cracking jokes", it is your fundamental inner manner of looking at the world and how you react to situations that surpass time, location, and even culture. Humor can hold a cross cultural couple together, but can also break a cross-cultural couple up. I am a white guy from the United States and I have been with a Mexican girl from Mexico for years now. I think we would both say that our relationship is not necessarily a very happy one and that is because of our very different styles of humor. Even though we have both grown over the years to UNDERSTAND our differences in humor and perspectives on the world in an academic sense, I would say that neither one of us truly APPRECIATES the other's sense of humor. It is kind of like: "I really truly DO understand where you are coming from, and I don't think it's bad or good, it's just not my style and I definitley know you are not my soul mate." As has been state by others posting replys here: Good luck to all cross-cultural lovers!!! I would definitely agree with the points made in this article. I understand what you are saying about “humor” – it is not just “cracking jokes”, it is your fundamental inner manner of looking at the world and how you react to situations that surpass time, location, and even culture. Humor can hold a cross cultural couple together, but can also break a cross-cultural couple up. I am a white guy from the United States and I have been with a Mexican girl from Mexico for years now. I think we would both say that our relationship is not necessarily a very happy one and that is because of our very different styles of humor. Even though we have both grown over the years to UNDERSTAND our differences in humor and perspectives on the world in an academic sense, I would say that neither one of us truly APPRECIATES the other’s sense of humor. It is kind of like: “I really truly DO understand where you are coming from, and I don’t think it’s bad or good, it’s just not my style and I definitley know you are not my soul mate.”

As has been state by others posting replys here: Good luck to all cross-cultural lovers!!!

]]> By: Magella http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-1740 Magella Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:43:05 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-1740 Simone, a response but on a slight tangent... You're a great writer! You're style is thoughtful, lean, engaging with a nice turn of phrase... so great to see good writing - and content - online!Keep creating! Simone, a response but on a slight tangent… You’re a great writer! You’re style is thoughtful, lean, engaging with a nice turn of phrase… so great to see good writing – and content – online!Keep creating!

]]> By: Annonymous http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-1739 Annonymous Tue, 05 Jan 2010 08:11:39 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-1739 Thanks for the nice article. I am a Canadian caucasian woman in my early twenties who is dating someone from an Indo-Canadian background. I came to this website after having a conversation with a group of people that left me feeling a bit sad. They don't believe the relationship will work between us because his family background is too different. I am of the view that love between individuals is more powerful than divisions created by skin colour, religion, or cultural background. I would want to say to anybody who comes across this website not to give up on a relationship because other people don't believe it will work. If you love somebody, don't give up just because people around you lack faith. All the best to everyone out there in a cross-cultural relationship. Thanks for the nice article. I am a Canadian caucasian woman in my early twenties who is dating someone from an Indo-Canadian background. I came to this website after having a conversation with a group of people that left me feeling a bit sad. They don’t believe the relationship will work between us because his family background is too different.

I am of the view that love between individuals is more powerful than divisions created by skin colour, religion, or cultural background.

I would want to say to anybody who comes across this website not to give up on a relationship because other people don’t believe it will work. If you love somebody, don’t give up just because people around you lack faith.

All the best to everyone out there in a cross-cultural relationship.

]]> By: Indian boy in love with Persian girl http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-1395 Indian boy in love with Persian girl Wed, 22 Oct 2008 05:24:53 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-1395 You are absolutely right. Especially about the sarcasm part. Me and my girlfriend connect very well on humor but she fails to get some puns/ americanese/ britishesque jokes that I sometimes deliver. Some of these involve sarcasm, but her english is functional and she's not too eloquent. Also given her culture, I am realizing that some types of jokes she tends to misunderstand or fail to get. It is helpful though that we are frank about it and quickly cover bases when we notice something like this has occurred. Communication is the key. And from what I've noticed, we "clicked" and therefore I feel we end up doing basic emotional communication at a level that transcends language. Devoid of word play, such communication tends to have remarkable honesty and clarity. It is wonderful. Good luck to all us cross-cultural lovers. You are absolutely right. Especially about the sarcasm part. Me and my girlfriend connect very well on humor but she fails to get some puns/ americanese/ britishesque jokes that I sometimes deliver. Some of these involve sarcasm, but her english is functional and she’s not too eloquent. Also given her culture, I am realizing that some types of jokes she tends to misunderstand or fail to get.

It is helpful though that we are frank about it and quickly cover bases when we notice something like this has occurred. Communication is the key. And from what I’ve noticed, we “clicked” and therefore I feel we end up doing basic emotional communication at a level that transcends language. Devoid of word play, such communication tends to have remarkable honesty and clarity.

It is wonderful.
Good luck to all us cross-cultural lovers.

]]> By: Tina Su – Think Simple Now http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-609 Tina Su – Think Simple Now Mon, 26 Nov 2007 12:05:04 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-609 Thanks for linking me. Much appreciated. :) Look for more from you. Keep it up :) Love & Gratitude, Tina <a href="”http://thinksimplenow.com”" rel="nofollow">Think Simple Now. ~ Clarity & Happiness</a> Thanks for linking me. Much appreciated. :)

Look for more from you. Keep it up :)

Love & Gratitude,
Tina
Think Simple Now. ~ Clarity & Happiness

]]> By: Simone http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-565 Simone Tue, 20 Nov 2007 08:34:33 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-565 Thanks :) S. Thanks :)
S.

]]> By: Personal Development for the Book Smart http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-563 Personal Development for the Book Smart Tue, 20 Nov 2007 07:22:31 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-563 Great post! Stumbled =) Great post! Stumbled =)

]]> By: Simone http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-553 Simone Sun, 18 Nov 2007 04:46:06 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-553 Hi Robin, Thanks for the support! S. Hi Robin,
Thanks for the support!
S.

]]> By: Robin Lee Sardini http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-551 Robin Lee Sardini Sun, 18 Nov 2007 02:23:52 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-secret-to-a-successful-cross-cultural-relationship/#comment-551 We Love who(m?) we love. Love doesn't know the invisible boundaries that keep people apart. I agree with you: maybe all the world leaders need to attend a laugh fest! What joy! Blessings to you and yours, Robin We Love who(m?) we love. Love doesn’t know the invisible boundaries that keep people apart.
I agree with you: maybe all the world leaders need to attend a laugh fest! What joy!
Blessings to you and yours,
Robin

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