Comments on: The Modern Fairytale: Marriage to a Foreign Man http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/ Tools to Lift Your Spirits and Help Focus Your Future Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:00:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: www.bestplasmatvdeals.info » The Modern Fairytale: Marriage to a Foreign Man http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-213 www.bestplasmatvdeals.info » The Modern Fairytale: Marriage to a Foreign Man Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:44:16 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-213 [...] Simone wrote a fantastic post today on “The Modern Fairytale: Marriage to a Foreign Man”Here’s ONLY a quick extractIn chat rooms and online communities we are passing through each other’s houses right across the globe. What was once a dot on the map can now be Google Earthed into your living-room, so that Timbuktu is now as close as a click away. … [...] [...] Simone wrote a fantastic post today on “The Modern Fairytale: Marriage to a Foreign Man”Here’s ONLY a quick extractIn chat rooms and online communities we are passing through each other’s houses right across the globe. What was once a dot on the map can now be Google Earthed into your living-room, so that Timbuktu is now as close as a click away. … [...]

]]> By: Simone http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-155 Simone Wed, 03 Oct 2007 23:36:48 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-155 Hi Michael, Thanks for visiting and for your encouraging comments! Yes, this article definitely reflects what I know about your own experience. It's a long road, but a good one. Talk soon, S. Hi Michael,
Thanks for visiting and for your encouraging comments!
Yes, this article definitely reflects what I know about your own experience. It’s a long road, but a good one.
Talk soon,
S.

]]> By: tugboat http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-150 tugboat Wed, 03 Oct 2007 00:09:53 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-150 Hi Simone, I enjoyed reading this post as it has been a part of my life for so long as well. I will relay this site to others as you have requested, and am glad that this blog is going well for you. Email me back if you like, and I will share with whomever you like. Say hi to Sok for me! Damn Gina! Michael Hi Simone, I enjoyed reading this post as it has been a part of my life for so long as well. I will relay this site to others as you have requested, and am glad that this blog is going well for you. Email me back if you like, and I will share with whomever you like. Say hi to Sok for me! Damn Gina! Michael

]]> By: Simone http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-144 Simone Tue, 02 Oct 2007 04:11:14 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-144 Hi Ambre, Thanks for sharing your story. I am sorry your trust was betrayed in such a way. I hope you have gone on to find the happiness you obviously deserve. S. Hi Ambre,
Thanks for sharing your story.
I am sorry your trust was betrayed in such a way. I hope you have gone on to find the happiness you obviously deserve.
S.

]]> By: ambre http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-143 ambre Tue, 02 Oct 2007 03:31:49 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-143 I must say, I enjoyed reading everyone's comments just as much as your post Simone. While my story differs, I too married a man who migrated to the US from Poland. Sadly enough though, his intentions were not honorable, as he merely sought out a green card, which, of course, little old helpless me (doubtful) was not privy to, but I quickly picked up the signs along the way. I had a rather difficult time accepting their so-called custom of having female friends from Poland visit our home sit 'harmlessly' on my husband's lap. Well, that custom didn't last long nor did the marriage. I was very young, so, I shook it off and moved on. I must say, I enjoyed reading everyone’s comments just as much as your post Simone. While my story differs, I too married a man who migrated to the US from Poland. Sadly enough though, his intentions were not honorable, as he merely sought out a green card, which, of course, little old helpless me (doubtful) was not privy to, but I quickly picked up the signs along the way. I had a rather difficult time accepting their so-called custom of having female friends from Poland visit our home sit ‘harmlessly’ on my husband’s lap.

Well, that custom didn’t last long nor did the marriage. I was very young, so, I shook it off and moved on.

]]> By: Simone http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-117 Simone Sun, 30 Sep 2007 00:27:22 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-117 Hi Julia, You're spot on that the landscape of love is changing. A lot of the old stuff still applies, but policy makers need to understand that they can't regulate relationships... and we need to go into these relationships with open eyes, because immigration and love are still very foreign entities! S. Hi Julia,
You’re spot on that the landscape of love is changing. A lot of the old stuff still applies, but policy makers need to understand that they can’t regulate relationships… and we need to go into these relationships with open eyes, because immigration and love are still very foreign entities!
S.

]]> By: Simone http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-116 Simone Sun, 30 Sep 2007 00:24:18 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-116 Hi Julie, Thanks for your comments and congratulations on the upcoming birth of your Goddaughter! Good luck to all of your friends. I think in some ways this kind of marriage is easier - it is both a relationship contract and a commitment to the other person that the massive change (new country, new language etc) is permanent. That certainly helps you think twice before packing your bags over an argument! On the other hand, when the honeymoon period is over, you can still find yourself in a very foreign place (just without the cocktails!) You HAVE to be ready for massive change if you go into this sort of marriage. Thanks for getting me thinking so early on Sunday morning :) S. Hi Julie,
Thanks for your comments and congratulations on the upcoming birth of your Goddaughter!

Good luck to all of your friends. I think in some ways this kind of marriage is easier - it is both a relationship contract and a commitment to the other person that the massive change (new country, new language etc) is permanent. That certainly helps you think twice before packing your bags over an argument!

On the other hand, when the honeymoon period is over, you can still find yourself in a very foreign place (just without the cocktails!) You HAVE to be ready for massive change if you go into this sort of marriage.

Thanks for getting me thinking so early on Sunday morning :)
S.

]]> By: julia ward http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-112 julia ward Sat, 29 Sep 2007 16:14:51 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-112 I hope our governments and religious leaders start realizing that the old walls and even older ideas that came between us don't exist anymore. They keep manufacturing reasons for us not to cross borders, charging us with crimes if we kiss a girl on the cheek, demanding that we keep our distance when we already have broken down all the walls and thrown out all the rules when we started finding each other online. It's a revolution of knowledge and love right under our fingertips! blessings, julia julia ward - a BLINDING heart - a writer's blog www.ablindingheart.com I hope our governments and religious leaders start realizing that the old walls and even older ideas that came between us don’t exist anymore. They keep manufacturing reasons for us not to cross borders, charging us with crimes if we kiss a girl on the cheek, demanding that we keep our distance when we already have broken down all the walls and thrown out all the rules when we started finding each other online. It’s a revolution of knowledge and love right under our fingertips!

blessings,
julia
julia ward - a BLINDING heart - a writer’s blog
http://www.ablindingheart.com

]]> By: Julie http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-111 Julie Sat, 29 Sep 2007 15:55:51 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-111 Wow! I think that you are right on target on this one, Simone! My brother's wife is originally from Uzbekistan. Their first child, my Goddaughter Ashley Rose, is due on October 19th. When they met she was already living in Canada and spoke Russian, Hebrew and English. My boss at work married a woman from Ukraine. She didn't speak very much English when they met and has a daughter that was eight at the time of their marriage. They had to deal with the troubles of immigrating both of them along with many of the things that you have had to go through, too, I imagine. Another friend married a woman he met over the internet who is from the Philippines. So I guess what I am saying is, you're right, it is much more common in today's world. And it doesn't always work out. It isn't very easy. But I am so glad that it is working out for you so far! Julie Wow! I think that you are right on target on this one, Simone!

My brother’s wife is originally from Uzbekistan. Their first child, my Goddaughter Ashley Rose, is due on October 19th. When they met she was already living in Canada and spoke Russian, Hebrew and English.

My boss at work married a woman from Ukraine. She didn’t speak very much English when they met and has a daughter that was eight at the time of their marriage. They had to deal with the troubles of immigrating both of them along with many of the things that you have had to go through, too, I imagine.

Another friend married a woman he met over the internet who is from the Philippines. So I guess what I am saying is, you’re right, it is much more common in today’s world. And it doesn’t always work out. It isn’t very easy. But I am so glad that it is working out for you so far!

Julie

]]> By: Simone http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-109 Simone Sat, 29 Sep 2007 09:14:24 +0000 http://outfitinspirations.com/blog/the-modern-fairytale-marriage-to-a-foreign-man/#comment-109 Hi Jon, Joy and Sharon, Thanks for your comments! Jon, sorry to hear things didn't work out... Sharon, I think immigration in many countries is a real struggle. My husband's case was really difficult and took over four years to work through. Luckily we were never knocked back on anything, but it really changed my views on personal freedom. I kept thinking "I'm a sixth-generation Aussie, how can the government tell me who to marry???" The reality is you become part of a very big, impersonal process. Now I improve processes for a living, so I'm getting my own back :) Best of luck to your friends and look out for my upcoming "Beating Bureaucracy" post! S. Hi Jon, Joy and Sharon,
Thanks for your comments!

Jon, sorry to hear things didn’t work out…

Sharon, I think immigration in many countries is a real struggle. My husband’s case was really difficult and took over four years to work through.

Luckily we were never knocked back on anything, but it really changed my views on personal freedom. I kept thinking “I’m a sixth-generation Aussie, how can the government tell me who to marry???”

The reality is you become part of a very big, impersonal process. Now I improve processes for a living, so I’m getting my own back :)

Best of luck to your friends and look out for my upcoming “Beating Bureaucracy” post!
S.

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